tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post2064602391449842824..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: The Room Smells Like BananasRobinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-60193421633273128082010-09-19T10:53:42.962-02:002010-09-19T10:53:42.962-02:00That's a toughie, Carlynne. I think I would ra...That's a toughie, Carlynne. I think I would rather deal with the religion issue. Having loved ones adopt is thorny and painful.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-36543563279258543472010-09-19T10:49:19.091-02:002010-09-19T10:49:19.091-02:00My 2 topics are religion and adoption. Coming from...My 2 topics are religion and adoption. Coming from a very religious family I pretty much just keep my mouth shut. I have to bite my tongue sometimes about adoption when I'm dealing with paying customers at work. That's tough. The situation I'm dreading is spending time with family that I'm close to who are in the process of adopting their second baby. They live across the country so I haven't seen them since they got the first one. I just don't know how I'm going to handle that one.Carlynne Hershberger, CPSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365785230628216814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-45400618839999536092010-09-19T03:10:18.624-02:002010-09-19T03:10:18.624-02:00I'm too long in the tooth to put up with the c...I'm too long in the tooth to put up with the constant smell of bananas.Once the banana detector has done it's work I'm out of there.Don't care who they are, we all need out views equally respected and heard.Being an atheist and spending time with the other side is asking for big trouble!Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-6423988576668177622010-09-19T01:03:21.306-02:002010-09-19T01:03:21.306-02:00It sounds like you and I stand in the same place, ...It sounds like you and I stand in the same place, I will not as you say "worship at the alter of the adopters." My son and daughter and I are not in contact any longer because of my refusal to go along with the "as if born too", "gift from God", "meant to be", BS!<br /><br />I miss them every day, but do I have to give up myself to be loved by them? I can not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-80569110212062425802010-09-18T23:24:20.467-02:002010-09-18T23:24:20.467-02:00Sometimes I feel like I'm down the rabbit hole...Sometimes I feel like I'm down the rabbit hole with any "meant to be" nonsense. Who knows what's meant to be? <br /><br />I know my preferences. People can learn to shut up with their pro adoption stories when asked. Anyone that can't shut up can talk to my behind.<br /><br />Oohh, but fundies for Xmas? I don't know... You've got to have a great sense of humor sometimes.<br /><br />-Janet M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-36633295637285206672010-09-18T23:17:51.501-02:002010-09-18T23:17:51.501-02:00My adoptors said that it was all part of God's...My adoptors said that it was all part of God's plan and I told them that if they believed in God's plan then they had to believe that I was part of His plan also. That did not sit well at all! God's plan did not include the birthmother! I agree with you that adoption is not a good thing but an industry driven by demand and should be stopped. I have only been in reunion for 2 and one-half years, but I do not think that my daughter would agree with my opinions. She is still too "loyal" to her adoptors(and scared). And this loyalty is obvious even though her adoptors have disowned her 3 times for knowing me. But that being said, their behavior has really helped our relationship and her ties to me. I think she suspects where I stand on adoption as I have told her that adoption is a tragedy for all concerned. She is just not yet able to let go of how everything was great and happy and how her parents were "saints" although that is fading with their behavior.Kathynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-87170157368636082542010-09-18T18:49:53.040-02:002010-09-18T18:49:53.040-02:00You know something equally frustrating?
When you ...You know something equally frustrating?<br /><br />When you try to talk to an adoptive parent about how you don't believe adoption isn't "meant-to-be" because that means the loss of the original family and the severing trauma/tragedy is ALSO "meant-to-be" (Adoptive parents wouldn't have their child *without* this "meant-to-be" tragedy), and you get this response:<br /><br />"If it wasn't meant to happen, it wouldn't have."<br /><br />Funny thing is, EVERY OTHER TRAGEDY out there is considered an accident, an incident, a tragedy, a trauma.<br /><br />... but not adoption. :\<br /><br />It doesn't matter how bad the adoption was, or what led up to it. It was "meant-to-be" because, well, if it wasn't meant-to-be, it would have been prevented.<br /><br />Like, seriouslyMei Linghttp://sisterheping.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com