tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post4133744002971774116..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: And More About Unconditional LoveRobinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-5315658971774288852010-07-24T23:05:00.496-02:002010-07-24T23:05:00.496-02:00Robin, you are on a roll!
It's sad to imagine...Robin, you are on a roll!<br /><br />It's sad to imagine not even trying reunion. I hate to think there are mothers that are scared off by what they find online. But then it is pretty daunting when I take it too personally. <br /><br />My reunion began before the internet which has been a terrific boon to my awareness and understanding. But I know that the push/pull has overwhelmed me often.<br /><br />More than that I am grateful for the opportunity to know my daughter. Love is many things. Not being trusted challenges me to trust myself. I am grateful for that too.<br /><br />~JanetAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-57497951461616376272010-07-24T22:05:15.184-02:002010-07-24T22:05:15.184-02:00Great post, absolutely agree that we all deserve r...Great post, absolutely agree that we all deserve respect and to be treated decently.Reunion is hard, we make mistakes but adoptees need to sort out their shit, it's not all about them solely, there's another side which deserves the compassion they expect.<br />Linking this if I may it speaks so well to the issues.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-47389595725234262262010-07-24T12:59:42.386-02:002010-07-24T12:59:42.386-02:00Thank you. I needed that.Thank you. I needed that.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-82179214961017197422010-07-24T12:50:50.871-02:002010-07-24T12:50:50.871-02:00This comment has been removed by the author.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-35561615416284016792010-07-24T12:50:45.897-02:002010-07-24T12:50:45.897-02:00Sure Lori. Link away.Sure Lori. Link away.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-12134195461258208592010-07-24T12:38:51.457-02:002010-07-24T12:38:51.457-02:00I so agree with this blog that there is so much to...I so agree with this blog that there is so much to say on it that it may even become another blog on mine! This is SUCH a sore subject, and one that NEEDS to be discussed, but frequently isn't! We skate over the fact that the mother's rights were abused because the adoptee was hurt and we need to "Mother Up" for them, but that doesn't mean that mothers deserve even more abuse. It means that understanding and work is necessary on both sides. <br /><br />Thanks for opening the door on this, Robin. I hope that there can be some discussion on this, because I feel it needs to be, and this goes exactly to the heart of the mission and goals of SMAAC. Respect is a two-way street. Unconditional loves doesn't mean mothers need to become doormats.<br /><br />I also think that it is a wonderful reminder that not only people who are reunited read on the internet and are appalled at the view that some adoptees express, loudly, publicly, and consistently about the women who gave them life. I also have had mothers tell me that they read someplace or other and were shocked by what they read and decided that they don't have the energy left to deal with reunion. I think it will happen more and more, too. We are getting older and don't have the stamina we once did. And, what's the point of punishing a 60 year old for something over which she had no control at 18 or 20? Many of the adoptees who seem to be so abusive are in their 40's and have children of their own who are the ages their mothers were when they lost them. How much Power and Autonomy did THEY have at 18?<br /><br />I am 100% with you on this post, Robin. It is a subject whose time has come! I will also be writing about it later this weekend. Thanks for bringing it up! Good on ya!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-41252815505747063992010-07-24T12:20:09.716-02:002010-07-24T12:20:09.716-02:00Robin - Amen. I would like to link to this. This...Robin - Amen. I would like to link to this. This is a very good statement, words I have been trying to say, but you said so much better. Maybe it will strike a chord in the right place.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.com