tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post5312673343238689834..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Stigmas and Shaming and Secrets, Oh My!Robinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-48342833668565289732010-08-11T14:56:57.448-02:002010-08-11T14:56:57.448-02:00Amen, Robin....I decided when my son and I reunite...Amen, Robin....I decided when my son and I reunited that keeping my past and his existance a secret w wasn't worth it. Not only that, but I knew so many women who "were in a family way" and "had shot gun marriages" that I figured the shame was dissapated 40 years later. I didn't condemn myself to hell by having my son...He is the best aspect of my "affair" with his father. To bad my lover didn't realize what a mistake he was making by leaving me and my baby....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-15510945855916757772010-08-11T14:31:33.238-02:002010-08-11T14:31:33.238-02:00But, Robin, that not keeping your mouth shut is pa...But, Robin, that not keeping your mouth shut is part of your charm and one of the major reasons that I love you so much! I have never been known as a retiring type, either, and I welcome a kindred spirit. Now, all I have to do is shut up for a minute and remember where I left that darn broom and fly on down there, pick you up and we will go jacksmack that asshole together!!! Can we pick up some of our friends on the way. I am sure that some of them are ready to fly the dust off their brooms, too....<br /><br />Great post, Sister!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-3651773420651205142010-08-11T13:39:10.426-02:002010-08-11T13:39:10.426-02:00Trying one more time.
I watched Rickie's vide...Trying one more time.<br /><br />I watched Rickie's video. I never really realized how badly we were labeled and used until I read her first book. It opened a flood of memories that almost overwhelmed me. I read it the same year I reunited with my adult children.<br /><br />That "go and sin no more and keep your mouth shut" farewell I received from the social workers is still fresh in my mind. I'm a baaad girl because I didn't keep my mouth shut. ;o)Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-30538989184259108192010-08-11T13:36:39.542-02:002010-08-11T13:36:39.542-02:00This comment has been removed by the author.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-58431182768525289942010-08-11T13:32:35.724-02:002010-08-11T13:32:35.724-02:00Great post :-)
There's a video on the sidebar...Great post :-)<br /><br />There's a video on the sidebar of my blog that I think is very interesting. Rickie Solinger was talking about "Begars and Choosers" and basically said that adoption was centered around taking vulnerable women and keeping them vulnerable. <br /><br />IMHO, the facade of "lifelong secrecy" imposed in adoption and the NCFA claiming to "protect" you is to promote this seperate class of subordinate women that society needs to shroud in this mysterious veil of protection, rather than elevate to equality and give a voice.<br /><br />The NCFA makes me sick.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-40616557041497375082010-08-11T12:33:51.278-02:002010-08-11T12:33:51.278-02:00Great post!Great post!J. Marie Jamesonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13332149448125750269noreply@blogger.com