tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post620153511209083202..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Well, There Goes The NeighborhoodRobinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-51110441365105631452010-04-27T12:19:17.787-02:002010-04-27T12:19:17.787-02:00Reminds me of a couple who adopted a baby boy from...Reminds me of a couple who adopted a baby boy from Korea years ago. They were neighbors and brought the little boy to visit with my mom and grandmother frequently. I used to think they were ok people. At one point my mother told me that the woman had stopped her at the supermarket to show her the photograph of an infant girl they expected to adopt soon (also from Korea). But a few months went by with no sign of this other baby. Eventually my mom asked the woman when the little girl would be arriving and here's what she said "That child turned out to have health problems, serious ones. But! they promised us that the next girl who becomes available will be ours. We were sad initially but just realized that this baby was not the one God meant to be ours." Not meant to be theirs that is because she had health problems. Apparently they have a special understanding with God that they will raise no imperfect children. Eventually they got a perfect girl. I've often wondered if she will ever know that they knew she was "theirs" only because of her perfect health. Ten years ago, it seemed in my area (Boston) whenever you saw an Asian child, he/she would be with a Caucasian adopter. That is seems to be changing around here though. I always breathe a sigh of relief when I see a young Asian child accompanied by his/her natural parent. ClareAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-70657110266740387082010-04-26T16:19:46.207-02:002010-04-26T16:19:46.207-02:00It would be helpful, Karen. It would be even more ...It would be helpful, Karen. It would be even more helpful if the natural parents were notified and allowed to give that information more directly to their daughter. I don't think that is how the Chinese operate, though.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-52280997477427042822010-04-26T13:18:58.069-02:002010-04-26T13:18:58.069-02:00I had your same reaction this weekend when ready t...I had your same reaction this weekend when ready the Sunday local newspaper about a young 20 something girl (photo looked Asian) who had a rare medical disorder which was not getting the proper treatment. I was drawn to the article because the other photo showed a Caucasian mom helping her Asian daughter and I just knew she was adopted. Sure enough the daughter was adopted but no mention in the article about obtaining biological parent's medical history. I'm was torn about commenting or not online to this article that it might be helpful to find the biological parents medical history.Karen Dawberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11649086955006388856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-43704764063265432052010-04-25T17:56:23.032-02:002010-04-25T17:56:23.032-02:00It's everywhere, isn't it. Adoption, that ...It's everywhere, isn't it. Adoption, that is. <br /><br />You know, this has happened me, only in my instance it is with an adoptive mother at my son's school. <br /><br />One of his best friends is adopted. I sat in a park with her while they had a playdate and listened to her "I am his forever mommy and she is just his birthmother" line, while I just sat there, dumbfounded. I didn't even bother to tell her that I was one of them there 'birthmothers'. Didn't have it in me... my son can keep his friend and I will keep my big trap shut, because it tends to get me into trouble when this topic of conversation comes up. She did invite my son to his birthday party last week. I couldn't help but think of his mother who was probably grieving on this day, for her son...Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05853661383614920724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-21010952713379991352010-04-25T17:41:56.751-02:002010-04-25T17:41:56.751-02:00I find it difficult to be civil to them, even when...I find it difficult to be civil to them, even when I am aware of it. What never ceases to amaze me is the number of drug addicted, slatternly women who surrender their unwanted infants 10 seconds ahead of CPS taking them away, and have no desire to stay in contact following an open adoption agreement. Oddly dissimilar to the stories one hears from the mothers....Yeah! Riiiiiight!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-17218132484158886942010-04-25T15:09:06.892-02:002010-04-25T15:09:06.892-02:00It's overwhelming when you are suddenly confro...It's overwhelming when you are suddenly confronted with adoption and you were not looking for it. On holiday I saw a little chinese girl speaking perfect dutch to her white parents and I turned and ran the other way. I didn't want adoption spoiling my vacation. Having the situation live next door would be awful. It's bad enough when you see it randomly but to have it in your face where you live oh no that's just awful.KimKimnoreply@blogger.com