tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post6474773944333123056..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Since When Is A Human Baby A GIFT??Robinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-12621201812117644342008-09-10T17:50:00.000-02:002008-09-10T17:50:00.000-02:00robinthank you for the truth when I found my son h...robin<BR/>thank you for the truth when I found my son his adopters said<BR/>she is our worst nightmare come true to bad I am back and I am staying back I did not give you a gift I fought to keep my son for over 5 months how dare you say he was a gift or that I am your worst nightmare you stole my child<BR/>gayleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-30784368812243794122008-09-09T03:25:00.000-02:002008-09-09T03:25:00.000-02:00As always, Sister, Spot on! the comments on this ...As always, Sister, Spot on! the comments on this one are particularly appropriate. I have often thought of the reply that a sister mom made to the people who had her child and thanked her for the "gift" of her daughter (coincidentally the only child she ever had). She said, "Please, stop. Your Greatest gift was my Greatest Sorrow." How can even an insensitive fool not feel the passion in that statement. How can someone continue to flatter themselves that this is choice. What fools they are. How glad that you are pointing out the absurdity of their remarks. Keep on, Robin, You are doing a Great Job at pointing out the truth. <BR/>Hugs, <BR/>SandyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-8709983491620145182008-09-07T21:08:00.000-02:002008-09-07T21:08:00.000-02:00Another very good post, Robin. And so very true an...Another very good post, Robin. And so very true and accurate.<BR/>I hear it today still, amoms hitting the "support" boards, thanking the young girls today for the "gift" of their child. It sickens me and puts me in a state of mind where I don't like these women and I don't even know them.<BR/><BR/>Though my son I lost now lives with me, he still must watch what he says with his amom because if he slips and does something completely atrotious, such as call me mom or my husband his dad, our parents his grandparents, she gets angry and nasty with him. Though she absued and neglected him and her family has done so many cruel and nasty things to him over the years, to her, he still has no right to acknowledge his natural family as his own. And yep, she has on more than one occasion thanked me for the "gift." I would love to tell her where she can stick that "thanks" of hers. Right about in the same hell as she put my son through for so many years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-65325646318425404732008-09-07T18:37:00.000-02:002008-09-07T18:37:00.000-02:00Oh Robin, you have so hit the nail on the head wit...Oh Robin, you have so hit the nail on the head with this 'no holds barred' blog. Bravo and thanks!<BR/>Another EMS/BSE motherGo ask Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01297230685778607238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-24433398076976420372008-09-07T12:08:00.000-02:002008-09-07T12:08:00.000-02:00I remember in my reunion with my son.His adopter s...I remember in my reunion with my son.<BR/><BR/>His adopter said that HE stabbed her in the heart. I think she said this because he wanted to know me his mom and she couldn't understand that. <BR/><BR/>He did tell me that he told her she knew her mom. Not sure of her answer there but probably made her think!<BR/><BR/>She also used the "she gave you away" pitch. When my son told me this not long after our first face to face. I said a profane word to that it was my reaction to an absurd statement made to an adoptee she had raised as her son from 6 weeks old. <BR/><BR/>Raised as if "born" to but we all know the truth of that he wasn't born to her and god didn't have a hand in any of the adoption. The wreckers did. And hell NO he wasn't a gift! <BR/><BR/>I wanted my baby always did and everybody EVEN adopters knew that they knew what happened to young women who got pregnant and they were the benefactors of the pregnancy. They were given a baby because they wanted one, and we were young and unsupported by all.<BR/>It was a win, win, situation. <BR/><BR/>Absurdity, by all those who think it was a win, win, we mothers were the losers, expendable, and able to have more babies, while adopters weren't able to have any or so they thought as some adopters did get pg after adopting rare but it did happen. <BR/><BR/>Too much coffee this morning but had to address it in my own words, my own experience. <BR/><BR/>GaleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-41739094290547185482008-09-07T10:55:00.000-02:002008-09-07T10:55:00.000-02:00Thanks for enlarging and adding to the points in t...Thanks for enlarging and adding to the points in this post, Chris. It just goes to prove that this is a shared experience and not an isolated one. So many of these adopters want to put our complaints down to the "rare bad experience" and the fact is, it was devastating for all of us, even the ones still in denial.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-7167889266381780732008-09-07T01:48:00.000-02:002008-09-07T01:48:00.000-02:00""No woman that I know is so altruistic that she w...""No woman that I know is so altruistic that she would "donate" her child to another woman like an item for a charity auction.""<BR/><BR/>I know I certainly did not make a 'gift' of my newborn to anyone. But I have the feeling that many an adoptor would like to believe, will even make themselves believe, their adopted child was a gift from the mother. Or even more insanely...that the adopted child is a 'gift' directly from God..via the 'tummy mommy'! It was afterall, God's Plan!!! doncha' know!! I wonder, does God ever discuss his Godly Plans with the adoptors? Otherwise how do they know this is 'God's Plan'? Does a little Godly Birdie tell them so?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-26012207388729877632008-09-07T01:40:00.000-02:002008-09-07T01:40:00.000-02:00""For many Mothers, we became our children's' dirt...""For many Mothers, we became our children's' dirty, little secrets..something they couldn't share with the people who supposedly loved them unconditionally and only wanted the best for them.""<BR/><BR/>How very on the mark the above statement is. Many, many an adult adoptee has referred to themselves as the 'dirty little secret'..yet how many adult adoptees have practiced same with their mothers in reunion? Many an adult adoptee will say they can't tell their adopters they are in reunion with their natural mother/families, because....It would upset/hurt the feelings of/break the heart of/it's not the business of/be cut out of the will of, the adoptor mother and/or father. They can't tell the adoptors about their reunions because...their college $$$$ will be cut off/they won't understand/they will be very angry/the adoptor mother/father is too ill to handle the news of/adoptor mother is mentally unstable/the adoptors may never talk to their adopted adult children again. Yet the same adult adoptees will rail about them being kept a 'dirty little secret', when their mother tells them she can't tell her husband/other children/or other family members who know nothing about her being pg before marriage and/or no one ever knew. What's wrong with this picture? If adoption and/or surrender (some mothers still tout it was the right 'choice') is so wonderful, so loving, so caring, just the best thing since sliced bread...Why the hell are so many people so damn fearful, to tell their families...natural or adopted that they are in reunion??? If something is sooooo good, why are so many people so terrified? Whether the adopted person or the mother...evidently surrender and adoption left many mothers and their now adult children, horribly insecure in their relationships within their families. Mothers and adoptees share many of the same pains,trials and tribulations, the adoptors do not!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com