tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post7502662581861617611..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: A Note To A New FriendRobinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-29305645762757808362010-08-02T20:11:23.113-02:002010-08-02T20:11:23.113-02:00Thank you, Robin. Telling it so well.♥KathleenThank you, Robin. Telling it so well.♥KathleenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-24067775210982989632010-08-02T14:34:45.202-02:002010-08-02T14:34:45.202-02:00Lorraine, you hit the nail on the head. While we c...Lorraine, you hit the nail on the head. While we cannot put ourselves in the place of the adoptee and experience what they have, neither can they do that with us. What we need to learn to do is respect the experience of each other and aknowledge the pain of the other.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-47104985951397396442010-08-02T13:18:24.176-02:002010-08-02T13:18:24.176-02:00We sometimes hear from adoptees that reunion is &q...We sometimes hear from adoptees that reunion is "not about us." Well, wait one moment: it's about both of us, the given and the givee. The child and the mother. It doesn't happen without the participation of both of us. <br /><br />The statement must come from a place of deep hurt and a sense--instilled by adopters and society, I suppose--that we went on with our lives after surrender without looking back, without a lifetime of grieving. Reunion is about both sides of the equation, and yes, our pain needs to be acknowledged. It's something that we so often suffer in silence.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-2176257182859042322010-08-02T13:08:47.004-02:002010-08-02T13:08:47.004-02:00I wiil always be mother to my son the son I lost t...I wiil always be mother to my son the son I lost to adoption.<br /><br /> ALL of my son's and my daughter mother to all of them! <br /><br />Although, some deny the fact, I was there when they ran out of delivery room with my baby boy. Didn't see him, or touch him and this medical was paid for by my step thing's insurance to boot..so I wasn't a burden on society like it was played out. Just a young woman having a baby like the generations before at a young age like our grandmothers before us. <br /><br />The only difference was the demand for white babies was high and society decided the market was ripe with mother's who could supply a baby to a barren woman. <br /><br />Just another glitch in the disturbed thinking of the time. My mother's generation the "greatest generation" ha I think NOT!Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00835368613260334539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-23086261615815911132010-08-02T06:17:47.213-02:002010-08-02T06:17:47.213-02:00Straight up!! I like the way you tell it like it i...Straight up!! I like the way you tell it like it is.<br /><br />CarolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-787233988019212172010-08-01T23:49:32.170-02:002010-08-01T23:49:32.170-02:00Beautifully, painfully, honestly said, Robin ... w...Beautifully, painfully, honestly said, Robin ... wow.Celeste Billhartznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-6217249763286262802010-08-01T22:49:55.518-02:002010-08-01T22:49:55.518-02:00Thank you Robin.I for one find anything other than...Thank you Robin.I for one find anything other than 'mother' offensive.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-45531800822641736222010-08-01T20:53:44.815-02:002010-08-01T20:53:44.815-02:00Thank you, my Friend. Beautiful and poignant and ...Thank you, my Friend. Beautiful and poignant and exactly spot on. You have a gift.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.com