tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post764710868593411796..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Where's The Respect?Robinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-43318018825783450842010-07-14T08:45:16.970-02:002010-07-14T08:45:16.970-02:00Von, these young moms have been inured to the dama...Von, these young moms have been inured to the damages of adoption by a slick industry that treats adopters as if they are some kind of saint. They believe the lies they are told, then don't want to admit they've been had.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-85618278378570609942010-07-13T22:46:54.899-02:002010-07-13T22:46:54.899-02:00All adoptions are different but all adoption is a ...All adoptions are different but all adoption is a tragedy.It seems for the BeeMommies to come down to not being ready for parenthood and believing they can have it all when you want it.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-49255074981455131992010-07-13T20:12:55.598-02:002010-07-13T20:12:55.598-02:00I have been struggling with this too. Hearing fro...I have been struggling with this too. Hearing from women "well, ALL adoptions are different" as if they'll pick the absolute perfect APs and they or their child won't have any issues because their adoption will be so "different." Our experiences and what we've lived don't mean anything because what we've lived for decades, they've considered for a month or two and STILL *must* know more than we do.<br /><br />*sigh*The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-19582355359136967502010-07-13T14:32:34.698-02:002010-07-13T14:32:34.698-02:00I feel your pain on this, Robin. They don't wa...I feel your pain on this, Robin. They don't want to hear from Mothers who have lived through the torment, nor do they want to hear from adoptees who have lived through it. <br /> <br />I have told many pregnant women considering the "better life through adoption" lie that children would much rather be with their first Mothers...even if they had to live in a shelter, versus live with strangers who have "things". Those "things" never replace our Mothers. <br /> <br />All we can do is to keep telling our truths.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-39093986598133946432010-07-13T14:02:49.624-02:002010-07-13T14:02:49.624-02:00Unfortunately, you are right, Chris. But I did hav...Unfortunately, you are right, Chris. But I did have some older folks in my family suggesting that we all pull together and keep my baby. They got cut off at the knees. And, I look at how old some of the social workers and "counselors" were at the FCH in Charlotte...these "women" were in their 20's.<br /><br />No, age and experience don't always guarantee that someone has acquired wisdom. But, if someone has walked the same trail that you are on, it might help to learn where it took them.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-16573172855048005142010-07-13T13:57:11.113-02:002010-07-13T13:57:11.113-02:00Like they say.."You can drag a horse to water...Like they say.."You can drag a horse to water, but you can't make it drink". Much wisdom there.<br /><br />WAIT!! Stop the presses!! The above..when in relationship to adoption propaganda is sopped up like the last spot of water on earth. Why is it some women can be convinced to surrender, will listen to the adoption propagandists, but turn a deaf ear to the mothers/women who have been there, done that????? The older I get, seems the less I know and understand.<br /><br />I didn't surrender because of adoption propaganda..I surrendered out of desperation, hopelessness and no financial or moral support. And just prayed to A God I believed in then..to keep my baby safe. Of course, not the least to mention the only option that was given to me at the hospital, was the option of adoption. Not one older person in that hospital said to me.."Christine, you know you do have the right to take your baby home, afterall you are your baby's mother." Never heard those words. Before I even signed the 'papers'...my motherhood had already been stripped from me...by complete strangers..but they were older and supposedly wiser. No they were not wiser..they were older and very cruel people, who were only in fear of losing their jobs, so had to carry out whatever protocols were in place in how to handle delivering unwed mothers. These hospital workers (docs, nurses, SWs, agency workers), held on to their jobs by sacrificing my baby's life for their paychecks. Wonder if there were any 'workers' out there..that put their paychecks aside and ever outright told a young unmarried mother..Ya'know you have rights too, this is your baby, you are a Mother! I never heard it and I doubt many young unwed mothers, newly delivered ever heard those words either. <br /><br />Age and life experiences doesn't always equate to wisdom. One only has to remember/question the Older People who were confident in their Wisdom..that we were unfit to be mothers..simply because we were young and not married.Chrisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-60284636915323452082010-07-13T13:17:36.091-02:002010-07-13T13:17:36.091-02:00You see, Maybe, from my end, I have offered help o...You see, Maybe, from my end, I have offered help only to have it rejected. It only takes one person to help but when you are the only one, you can't get to everyone and you sure can't get to the ones who don't want help.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-56304789663317379672010-07-13T13:12:19.353-02:002010-07-13T13:12:19.353-02:00"I have helped younger mothers who really wan..."I have helped younger mothers who really wanted to keep their babies, but I have only been able to change the minds of two who were considering surrender."<br /><br />Wow, that just breaks my heart. If only ONE person had offered any type of help I would be a different person today - I would be a mother.maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.com