tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post793045842004444312..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Being ThereRobinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-16571636196084791992010-01-04T16:34:59.047-02:002010-01-04T16:34:59.047-02:00I have long believed that the mothers deserve the ...I have long believed that the mothers deserve the same access. I have even fought for it. It falls on deaf ears in Texas and IndianaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-81691954090352752302009-12-24T02:19:12.349-02:002009-12-24T02:19:12.349-02:00Robin, I am appalled that in the United States, th...Robin, I am appalled that in the United States, those few states that do have open records discriminate against natural parents. Why has there not been a campaign for open records for both natural parents and adoptees, the same as we have had up here in Canada? We have opened 4 provinces, and several others are actively contemplating open records. <br /><br />Robin, would you support a campaign for records to be opened such that both the adoptee and his/her natural parents can obtain the OBC, ABC, and adoption court order?Cedarhttp://cedartrees.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-47876202676265955952009-12-23T17:23:15.730-02:002009-12-23T17:23:15.730-02:00I've heard about the scrubbing of father's...I've heard about the scrubbing of father's names in Ontario. Horrible! Here's an article about it.<br /><br />http://tinyurl.com/ycjerr6<br /><br />This is a practice that seems to be reviving in this day and age of increased call for adoption reform. Because if you never keep the information in the first place, then if those records are opened the secrets are still concealed. It's also happening with donor-conceived people who have no way to figure out who their genetic parents are.Triona Guidryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969598333210972017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-11080007236481052842009-12-20T15:38:20.705-02:002009-12-20T15:38:20.705-02:00In Ontario, mothers and adoptees can have the obc&...In Ontario, mothers and adoptees can have the obc's (unless there is a disclosure veto) <br /><br />It has been found that no unwed father's have been named in documents dating between the 1960's and the 1980's, even though the law allowed for unwed fathers to be named provided they did a declaration of paternity.<br /><br />We are now demanding an explanation from the Ontario government about this and we are hoping that they will agree to "update" our records as Ontario law allows for that too. <br /><br />I am personally putting on some serious pressure. My son's father has given me a copy of his declaration of paternity - the one the government claims doesn't exist.<br /><br />Some opposition politicians are also helping in this too. <br /><br />We are hoping that the government will let us get father's names down. <br /><br />Apparently, only 10 percent of fathers on named on all Ontario birth certificates - there is definitely something wrong here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-77297019296182747012009-12-20T14:03:53.044-02:002009-12-20T14:03:53.044-02:00Of course that's why they do it! Anything that...Of course that's why they do it! Anything that makes it easier to get the baby. If the father is known (and contrary to belief in most cases he IS known) he should HAVE to be listed. Practices like that make it difficult for fathers to assert their rights when needed and impossible for mothers to get financial support that fathers SHOULD HAVE to provide for their babies. Another win for the agencies...fathers can't fight and mother's have no access to support that might help them raise their children!<br /><br />Like Maybe said, SICK!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-2721579074447789732009-12-18T15:05:25.074-02:002009-12-18T15:05:25.074-02:00I suspect the refusal to record the naming of the ...I suspect the refusal to record the naming of the father is still happening today. I'm of Cassi's era (early '80s) and the law at that time stated the father could only be listed on the BC if he came to the hospital or vital records department and signed the form. The father of my child never showed up, so no signature, no father listed on BC.<br /><br />I'm sure adoption agencies love this practice - good way to make sure the father doesn't assert any parental rights. <br /><br />How sick that the father of Cassi's child was not allowed to sign!maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-34161656590632286792009-12-18T09:22:53.995-02:002009-12-18T09:22:53.995-02:00I know, in some areas, there was still a lot of th...I know, in some areas, there was still a lot of the bad old practices going on. The fact that it happened as recently as that makes it even more important that the EMS be seriously investigated by those in power and addressed by same.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-75393963531904831292009-12-17T18:39:04.442-02:002009-12-17T18:39:04.442-02:00I know my son's adoption came many years later...I know my son's adoption came many years later but I just wanted to state that the practice of placing "unknown" for the father still existed even twenty-two years ago.<br /><br />My husband (then boyfriend) had a blood test done while my son and I were still in the hospital, proving he was my son's father and yet they still told me I could not name him on my son's birth certificate.<br /><br />Just another way for the industry to twist their lives to some kind of sick, warped reality.Cassihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00274531213087340905noreply@blogger.com