tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post8071336687296523637..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Baby Buyer, BewareRobinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-53362223405854785092008-07-24T18:16:00.000-02:002008-07-24T18:16:00.000-02:00Robin, you said: "how they will perceive their ado...Robin, you said: "how they will perceive their adoptions and how it will make them feel to know that they were a band-aid to slap over the wound of infertility, a second choice or a measure taken to save a marriage (which usually ends, anyway) and, were probably stolen from their real families."<BR/><BR/>I was adopted domestically, but I can tell you my answer. These people - whom some would call adopted "children" even after adulthood - will be very, very angry.<BR/><BR/>I was the band-aid, the solution to my adoptive parents' problems. We've been estranged for over a decade because of the secrets that kept us apart. While I may not have been "stolen" per se, there is much about my adoption that is questionable. When people ask me if I'm "grateful" to be adopted, I say no. Why would I be? I'd rather have been raised by my own blood, wouldn't anyone? Isn't it better to support mothers in raising their own kids instead of snatching them away to fulfill someone else's desires?<BR/><BR/>Adoptees aren't stupid, just as mothers who were forced to surrender aren't stupid. Some of us have figured out what was done to us and are even more angry when we realize it's STILL happening to the current generation, who twenty years from now are going to say the same things we are now.<BR/><BR/>When does the cycle end? When do we treat adoption as involving people, not chattel?<BR/><BR/>I love your posts, Robin!Triona Guidryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969598333210972017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-624136283397876642008-07-24T10:55:00.000-02:002008-07-24T10:55:00.000-02:00Actually I have been involved with Big Sisters and...Actually I have been involved with Big Sisters and adore the kids I mentored. I live outside of a depressed major metropolitan area so there are many opportunities to help kids in all circumstances. <BR/><BR/>I have always done this because I felt the need to help children after losing my own child. I am a teacher by profession so I have seen quite a bit of need out there.<BR/><BR/>Your post hit home because this past weekend the newest baby from China arrived on my block.Angellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02400662014485775139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-77177147770589593082008-07-24T10:39:00.000-02:002008-07-24T10:39:00.000-02:00Angelle, have you considered becoming a legal guar...Angelle, have you considered becoming a legal guardian to one of these older children, or even a mentor? These kids need truth and their heritage preserved just as much as the healthy infants do. There has to be a better solution for these children than the lies of adoption.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-30299225144273252362008-07-24T10:27:00.000-02:002008-07-24T10:27:00.000-02:00Thanks for posting. I have often wondered what are...Thanks for posting. I have often wondered what are these people thinking when they adopt. Oh, I know, get a baby and that baby will be mine, mine, mine. And I won't have to deal with the real mother, ever. <BR/><BR/>There have been 3 babies from China (out of 5 babies) adopted on my street in the past 5 years! It is about time these countries wake up and have some pride. I believe Korea did this a number of years ago.<BR/><BR/>In my opinion if you really want to create a family for a child that needs one, look no further than the Heart Gallery: "The Heart Gallery features portraits of foster children who dream of having a forever family through adoption." <BR/><BR/>By the way, I am a married “infertile” who has not raised a child. It was not a death sentence. But I am a truly blessed reunited BSE mother. <BR/><BR/>AngelleAngellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02400662014485775139noreply@blogger.com