tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post8655101203790901251..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Illegitimi Non CarborundumRobinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-40668801476113767502010-09-11T13:18:21.656-02:002010-09-11T13:18:21.656-02:00I hope everyone got the main message I was trying ...I hope everyone got the main message I was trying to deliver. It morphed into a discussion of the bastard word. LOLRobinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-61797329455778690582010-09-11T01:53:38.704-02:002010-09-11T01:53:38.704-02:00I've thought about taking my natural mothers m...I've thought about taking my natural mothers maiden name as my last name, but I want what is legitimately MINE by blood which is my natural father's last name. He doesn't know I exist, so he never had the chance to claim me himself. He's probably dead now.<br /><br />Thanks for the hugs, Robin!!! Right back at you!!! <br /><br />We will kill this dragon...natural mom's and adoptees will join forces and shred this adoption beast, turn it into spam, and feed it to all the rainbow-farting unicorns!!! LMAO.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-31242529517481860692010-09-10T20:01:25.939-02:002010-09-10T20:01:25.939-02:00Forgot to mention that karma thing....karma can be...Forgot to mention that karma thing....karma can be a snarling, raging bitch! I am hoping that there is special room in the Crockpot of the Hearafter for the people who feel that it is just fine to rehome children, destroy women and use them for their parts.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-46292703956784556032010-09-10T14:58:48.976-02:002010-09-10T14:58:48.976-02:00You are so right to be proud and happy, Chris.You are so right to be proud and happy, Chris.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-8650918066832458952010-09-10T14:55:13.394-02:002010-09-10T14:55:13.394-02:00""It's better not to have to carry t...""It's better not to have to carry the name of any man than to carry the name of an abusive or uncaring man.""<br />I am very happy (and proud)to say, that today I legally carry the last name I was born with...that of my own mother. As a child I was "forced" to carry the name of my step-father (who I believed to be my real father) who was horribly abusive. <br /><br />My original last name (maiden) name, is the same as my mother's maiden name...and that makes me so very happy!Chrisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-19374308853473043192010-09-10T14:26:59.628-02:002010-09-10T14:26:59.628-02:00For Robin's post...
Amen. Can I get an Hallel...For Robin's post...<br /><br />Amen. Can I get an Hallelujah???J. Marie Jamesonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13332149448125750269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-82790140911478413062010-09-10T14:04:25.149-02:002010-09-10T14:04:25.149-02:00(((Anon))) And I have many good friends who are Ba...(((Anon))) And I have many good friends who are Bastards. Unfortunately for many of us nmoms, the fathers of our surrendered children were not very nice either. So many of us were abandoned and maligned by these guys. It's better not to have to carry the name of any man than to carry the name of an abusive or uncaring man.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-34862396960746678292010-09-10T13:56:31.924-02:002010-09-10T13:56:31.924-02:00The man who adopted me was never a father to me, o...The man who adopted me was never a father to me, only on paper and I don't want his name listed as my father on any document. It's a lie and he was an abusive, horrible man.<br /><br />My natural mother refuses to help me find my father. <br /><br />Thanks for the clarification, Robin. I know you didn't mean anything by it. I'm speaking from a societal view.<br /><br />I am a Bastard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-79806155231988356432010-09-10T13:10:06.521-02:002010-09-10T13:10:06.521-02:00It is capitalized in one place of my post because ...It is capitalized in one place of my post because it is part of a song title. But in the English phrase, it is the lower case.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-85887877360006393052010-09-10T13:04:46.765-02:002010-09-10T13:04:46.765-02:00I often use lower case "b" for the cultu...I often use lower case "b" for the cultural use, and capital "B" for the reclaimed political use.<br /><br />Just sign me a proud Bastard.Baby Love Childhttp://www.babylovechild.org/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-7194313625241533732010-09-10T12:32:56.300-02:002010-09-10T12:32:56.300-02:00Actually, Anonymous, you are not legally a bastard...Actually, Anonymous, you are not legally a bastard anymore. You were "legitimized" by the act of adoption. A technicality, I know, but there it is. I have a friend, a True Bastard and a first mother, who, I am sure, will be reading this and will support this statement.<br /><br />And, you are correct, Robin, they have become even more insidious and sneaky. I am also noting that what was old is new again. The other day, a White Paper by Donaldson from 2006 was dusted off, "Protecting the Rights of the Birthmothers in Adoption" or something along those lines, as "proof" that they are concerned about the rights of young women. I reminded them that the full name of EBD is Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Research Institute. Heavy emphasis on the Adoption part. So, they are ALWAYS working toward Adoption. That is necessary to remember when viewing ANYTHING that comes from them, or agencies or anyone connected to the receiving end of adoption, including the market, IMO. <br /><br />Just sayin....Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17088288948654864117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-2307289104060225182010-09-10T12:00:13.605-02:002010-09-10T12:00:13.605-02:00Anon,
I understand your response to the term. I ...Anon, <br /><br />I understand your response to the term. I thought long and hard before I decided to use it. I do not recognize the concept of illegitimacy. Every child born is born rightfully. But the impact of what I was trying to convey called for the use of the term. <br /><br />There is also the fact that most of us mothers know your fathers and are happy to tell you who they are. A marriage licence is the only thing missing and that indicates that, unless a mother and child are "owned" by a man, the child is not legitimate. That is an outdated concept that should have gone the way of the dinosaurs a long time ago.<br /><br />I admire the adoptees who wear the "Bastard" title proudly, although to me, unchurched and rebellious as I am, it is a misnomer. I only wish we mothers had a comparitive term to use.."Sluts?" "Fornicators?" "Lightskirts?"<br /><br />Your taken offense is noted and I apologize for any hurt it may have caused. Believe me, I was not including adoptees and had no other comparable example to use.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.com