tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post9171060415973804585..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Abusers, Neglecters and Whores..Oh My!!Robinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-50413717163362056112008-11-19T17:44:00.000-02:002008-11-19T17:44:00.000-02:00The only defence I can think of for her is that sh...The only defence I can think of for her is that she *did* save her children. They came from a worsened background.<BR/><BR/>But the stereotypes are unnecessary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-60081354818895305842008-11-17T15:15:00.000-02:002008-11-17T15:15:00.000-02:00The article idea is great! Whether they would pub...The article idea is great! Whether they would publish it is questionable.<BR/><BR/>And Robin, you are so right about them not knowing us, or wanting to. I am probably the most run-of-mill, ordinary woman imaginable. I go to work, own a home, pay my taxes, never been on drugs, never been arrested, never been "bad." Expect I did commit the most heinous sin of all - youthful sex before marriage! I should be stoned!<BR/><BR/>(Oops, I shouldn't have said that, don't want to give the religious zealots any ideas).maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-35172800811282521112008-11-17T09:19:00.000-02:002008-11-17T09:19:00.000-02:00Cedar, do you really think they would publish such...Cedar, do you really think they would publish such an article? I hate to sound so cynical, but I think that, no matter how well written, how passionate and how persuasive such an article might be, they would not publish it because it does not fit their agenda.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-17846780734311947762008-11-16T18:38:00.000-02:002008-11-16T18:38:00.000-02:00"They first laugh at us. Then they fight us. Then..."They first laugh at us. Then they fight us. Then we win." They've just stopped laughing.<BR/><BR/>Now is our time to fight back. <BR/><BR/>Do we have a natural mother (or several) who would be willing to write an article for publication at CE? The guidelines for submission are at http://catholicexchange.com/contact/ under "How to Submit an Article for Publication"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-12042048748797937092008-11-16T10:14:00.000-02:002008-11-16T10:14:00.000-02:00You know, maybe, What you said just proves that no...You know, maybe, What you said just proves that not only do people like Saxton not know many Natural mothers, they don't want to know us. They might find out that we are normal, everyday women with values and morals and people who love and respect us. That would not be good for them. Their stereotype would fly out the window.<BR/><BR/>They also don't want to know how adopted people really feel. That makes me really mad because that is not how a real parent responds to their child.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-65337748380521803602008-11-16T09:39:00.000-02:002008-11-16T09:39:00.000-02:00Mei Ling,adopters don't listen. That's the problem...Mei Ling,<BR/><BR/>adopters don't listen.<BR/><BR/> That's the problem because if they truly listened they might be able to see beyond their need for acquiring a baby for themselves, is a mother suffering they don't care if the baby suffers after all they can provide such a better life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-42515757749437699932008-11-15T23:08:00.000-02:002008-11-15T23:08:00.000-02:00I'm so glad that there has been such a strong resp...I'm so glad that there has been such a strong response to this. Especially from vocal adoptees like Mei Ling, Triona, and many others - it's pretty hard to tell them they don't understand their own experience.<BR/><BR/>The mothers are routinely dismissed as abusive, druggies, etc. Our voices count for little. But now that Robin and Sandy and others are taking a bold stand and speaking out, things will have to change!maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-28628855468434213192008-11-15T21:15:00.000-02:002008-11-15T21:15:00.000-02:00This article and TONS of commentary is being linke...This article and TONS of commentary is being linked from blog to blog and spreading like wildfire everywhere.<BR/><BR/>I actually stumbled upon Heidi's blog when I looked up the tag "anti-adoption" on Wordpress, and exchanged a series of e-mails with her.<BR/><BR/>The summary of her e-mails:<BR/><BR/>"No one is saying you can't mourn the loss of your parents, but it is you who decides to dwell upon grief and failing to see the positives of what adoption has brought you. Don't those gains count for anything, too? Oh, and by the way, God will save your soul as long as you let him."<BR/><BR/>Yes, really.<BR/><BR/>I actually thought she wanted to learn from me, too. It appears that she doesn't really intend to learn but to just SAY she wants to learn, hears but doesn't "listen."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-24954286641426085992008-11-15T00:24:00.000-02:002008-11-15T00:24:00.000-02:00Was that YOU, Maybe? I couldn't see too well becau...Was that YOU, Maybe? I couldn't see too well because I had my glasses stuck in the pocket of my satin hot pants. ;o)Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-91381184003861048022008-11-14T16:28:00.000-02:002008-11-14T16:28:00.000-02:00Robin, did you take my pic last night while I was ...Robin, did you take my pic last night while I was out turning tricks? I look pretty hot, eh? :)<BR/><BR/>Society just can't believe that mothers and adoptees might (gasp!) have their own opinions about adoption. The myth of the saintly adopter rescuing the baby from the abusive abandoner is etched deeply in the pschye of the average American. Thank goodness that myth is being deconstructed and that we are finally hearing adoption stories from the viewpoint of someone other than the adoptive parents.maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07067284504038707207noreply@blogger.com