tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post1874746973803215118..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: Medical Records My Arse!Robinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-6387197585532406572011-03-08T02:25:38.664-02:002011-03-08T02:25:38.664-02:00Medical history was the last thing on my mind in r...Medical history was the last thing on my mind in reunion. Photos came first.Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-76665799772638088612011-03-08T00:10:57.049-02:002011-03-08T00:10:57.049-02:00Robin, Great Post! I think that you have tried to...Robin, Great Post! I think that you have tried to make this point before and I have to agree with you, whole heartedly. I will give my daughter any history she wants, but my private life is mine - no one else's. Also, just an FYI for Jenn - I had to ask for info on my mother, she never told us anything. I have severe asthma and smoked for 29 years - never knowing that my mother had it and most of her sibs and their children. Raised children don't always know what is up either. Sometimes you just have to ask the question.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-13970845540962807302011-03-07T18:59:03.060-02:002011-03-07T18:59:03.060-02:00Nice post Robin.
In my own personal experience, ...Nice post Robin. <br /><br />In my own personal experience, I always found that people tried to put the medical records excuse on me as the first and foremost reason. But, much to my aps chagrin, I always maintained that I wanted to simply know my mother. I wanted to offer her the choice to have a relationship with me; the chance for us to be part of each others lives.J. Marie Jamesonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13332149448125750269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-41120544207894300672011-03-07T18:30:13.035-02:002011-03-07T18:30:13.035-02:00From my POV, the "medical history" excus...From my POV, the "medical history" excuse comes from adoptees' fear of asking for what they want. They want their obc, their records, whatever the state hides, but instead of asking for that and looking "ungrateful" they ask for medical histories. They may also believe that courts look upon medical histories as "worthy" and "respectable." People however, get turned down all the time on medical grounds.<br /><br />The worst part of these pleas, however, is how once "medical history" get a hearing, rights go straight out the window. States are quite willing to set up anonymous medical registeries as a replacament for real records access. Then they can say, we gave you what you want, now go away. Politically, medical histories are a deadender, and anyone who argues on those grounds is nothing but a sealed records activist in lipstick. <br /><br />I'll also note, that it's people pleasing adoptees and their reactionary organiztions such as the EBD and AAC who beg for medical histories.Marley Greinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15184124024369071862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-68280598933446672172011-03-07T18:20:16.316-02:002011-03-07T18:20:16.316-02:00If it is in a legislation, then it is mandated of ...If it is in a legislation, then it is mandated of any mother who vetoes contact in one way or another...another stupid provision. The state should not be in the mix at all other than allowing the concerned parties, all of them, unrestricted access to identifying information. <br /><br />In any event, all a mother has to do is evoke her HIPAA rights and her constitutional rights. Legislation that carries such provisions cannot stand up to a constitutional challenged and would have the ACLU rubbing their hands in glee.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-87409508183090449242011-03-07T18:12:42.859-02:002011-03-07T18:12:42.859-02:00Wow, I honestly had no idea that the government wa...Wow, I honestly had no idea that the government was trying to force people to give up that medical history. I figured they were just asking for it. Well, I guess you really do learn something new everyday!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07905673873066445519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-57653586739840282512011-03-07T17:59:51.861-02:002011-03-07T17:59:51.861-02:00"Ask" is the operative word, here, Jenn...."Ask" is the operative word, here, Jenn. Unless it is obtrusively personal, I will answer any question my children ask. <br /><br />But I will not have my information mandated by law and enforced by the state. That violates my constitutional rights. It also continues a long practice of treating natural mothers as a lower class deserving no respect.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-70400504990510387672011-03-07T16:32:51.585-02:002011-03-07T16:32:51.585-02:00This was a very interesting post to read as an ado...This was a very interesting post to read as an adoptee.<br /><br />First of all, I'm preparing to meet my dad for the first time this week. I'm so excited and I had to laugh when I read this post because I am in the process of sending photo's to CVS to be printed so I can bring them with me. I wasn't sure if I should bring the pictures, but I defiantly will now.<br /><br />Next, I am one of those adoptees who used the whole medical excuse. I wasn't sure what I wanted from my mother, so I just told my adoptive family that I just wanted medical information in order to make it easier on them. After I started talking to her I realized that I wanted a relationship, which she didn't want and I had to respect that. I had to admit that I wanted more than just a medical record. I was able to get my answers, which is what I was really after and know my story now. You are dead on when it comes to this, at least in my experience. <br /><br />Another part of it was that I went to see a doctor for a medical condition that could potentially kill me and the doctor refused to help me because I did not have a medical family history. Apparently she couldn't do her job without it and it was <i>my</i> fault for not knowing it. I wish I had read this post first and had been able to tell her that there are raised children who might not have known if one particular thing ran in the family.<br /><br />While I agree that nobody has to tell anybody their medical history and some don't share, I think that if someone told you they needed it or they might die, you'd tell them. At least I know I would. Or if you had something that was genetic and could kill someone if they didn't know about it, you'd probably tell your children. The fact that adoptees are kept from even asking because of sealed records is ridiculous. We have the right to ask for it. It's the asking part that I think trips people up. I don't expect the full truth, but I do expect that if there's something that could help me out in the future it would be really nice to hear (so I won't die or something). But really, I feel like I should get to at least ask.<br /><br />Also, just as a side point, as a raised kid, you probably would have some idea about your parents' medical histories. I know my adoptive parents' because I've been around them and I know when they go to the doctor and when my mom got sick I knew what was going on because it was a big deal. She never "told" me anything, but I knew what was going on. I think that's an important thing that adoptees are missing. But that's just my opinion.<br /><br />Again, great post!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07905673873066445519noreply@blogger.com