tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post3691641923801683153..comments2023-07-12T06:26:17.735-02:00Comments on Motherhood Deleted: That "N" Word (Natural)Robinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-53477805666947908612010-12-09T02:06:39.077-02:002010-12-09T02:06:39.077-02:00This post made say "yah, take that world!&quo...This post made say "yah, take that world!" Thanks once again for standing tall for us mothers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-22501070922875567762010-12-08T20:28:49.517-02:002010-12-08T20:28:49.517-02:00Wow! I am always astounded at how far the industry...Wow! I am always astounded at how far the industry goes to tell us to shut up. They are truly scared by the idea that we might - gasp - actually still be mothers after the act of surrender!<br /><br />Somehow I am not surprised that this industry's satisfied customer is trying to tell a mother to shut up and go back to her industry-approved "role" as a breeder. <br /><br />Thank you, Robin, for writing this article in defence of the term "Natural Mother." It is a term that makes total sense. Adoption is NOT found in nature! <br /><br />I updated a post I wrote back in 2003, regarding "Respectful Adoption Language." I want to share this with you.<br /><a href="http://www.originscanada.org/respectful-adoption-language/" rel="nofollow">A Look at “Respectful Adoption Language”</a>Cedarhttp://adoptioncritic.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-37171751351300216732010-12-06T13:02:41.440-02:002010-12-06T13:02:41.440-02:00I have an idea. Why don't we just skip the N p...I have an idea. Why don't we just skip the N part altogeather and opt for the M word, MOTHER. That will really piss the ADOPTER off and make her want to send a nasty message. <br /><br />Yeah, I use the adopter term in the same way they use the birthmother term, to denounce me and so many others of our motherhood. Up hers. I have zero tolerance for them anymore. Zilch. Get over your delusions of grandeur and your self entitlement to that of which is not yours, A-DOP-TOR(S). Yeah, I said it and mean it. I don't care who it offends. <br /><br />Most get to play mothers to our children because they bought them from a baby broker and/ or (more recently) conned them out of their NATURAL mothers with lies and false promises. Yes, they deserve that title so very much.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-68896048446345865212010-12-06T10:30:35.450-02:002010-12-06T10:30:35.450-02:00To the industry, adopters and many others, it, sad...To the industry, adopters and many others, it, sadly, to them, means exactly that, Mei Ling. And it is a message they would like to proliferate. But, then, I am not a "birth" anything. I am a mother, period.<br /><br />As I have said before, my usage of the words noted are for my own stated reasons and cannot be ascribed to or explain the reasoning of, anyone else in a general sense. <br /><br />Discussion closed.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-2737722220733149502010-12-06T10:20:15.073-02:002010-12-06T10:20:15.073-02:00Noting that "adopter" is a perfectly goo...Noting that "adopter" is a perfectly good word and has been used legally for generations, it is neither denial nor confirmation of anyone's status. For many of my circle, it is used as a counter response to the "birthmother" term which, in point of fact, IS being used to deny our parenthood. We're all individuals and I speak only for myself and do not think of those who use the adopter title for different purposes as being dishonest. Perhaps there is a little "generalizing," of which we have been accused on numerous occasions, going on.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-8370307358554891262010-12-06T09:35:32.849-02:002010-12-06T09:35:32.849-02:00Perhaps not you Robin, but other anti-adoption peo...Perhaps not you Robin, but other anti-adoption people have tried to deny that the word "adopter" connotes any denial that adoptive parents are in fact parents in any real sense. <br /><br />I congratulate you on being honest about your beliefs, even though I do not share them.maryannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-91350762256574271472010-12-06T01:53:43.779-02:002010-12-06T01:53:43.779-02:00"How refreshing to see it admitted that you d..."How refreshing to see it admitted that you do not consider adoptive parents "parents" but adopters. Honesty is always the best policy."<br /><br />Many adoptive parents merely believe God's Will for a woman to use her uterus to conceive a child that was *really* meant for someone else. *raises eyebrows*<br /><br />So what does that mean? "birth" mothers are merely vessels for a political convenience?Mei Linghttp://adoptionparadox.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-69196359356514616442010-12-05T20:09:02.401-02:002010-12-05T20:09:02.401-02:00I'm glad you find it refreshing, maryanne. I&#...I'm glad you find it refreshing, maryanne. I've never really said anything different. I just no longer care what critics might have to say about it.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-66645281084107449822010-12-05T20:00:31.782-02:002010-12-05T20:00:31.782-02:00How refreshing to see it admitted that you do not ...How refreshing to see it admitted that you do not consider adoptive parents "parents" but adopters. Honesty is always the best policy.<br /><br />Lovely illustration of the pregnant woman.maryannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-43151296363715517472010-12-05T17:37:14.803-02:002010-12-05T17:37:14.803-02:00Great post. As a natural mother myself it was a k...Great post. As a natural mother myself it was a kick in the gut to hear our daughter (yes I married her father) introduce us to one and all as her birth parents. I asked her to not call me or us that. For sure this came from the adopters and even heard from her that their (birth)son said "I just went on with my life". Some things just never change.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-46677014819023051282010-12-05T12:16:22.250-02:002010-12-05T12:16:22.250-02:00I'd love to give Rosie O'Donnell a heads u...I'd love to give Rosie O'Donnell a heads up. Babies do not grow in our "tummies." That would be very uncomfortable. They grow in our uterus which is made just for that purpose.<br /><br />LOL! Great post.J. Marie Jamesonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13332149448125750269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-8344531479477438502010-12-04T22:14:05.075-02:002010-12-04T22:14:05.075-02:00What a terrible thing for her to get an email like...What a terrible thing for her to get an email like that :-(<br /><br />For me, who is "mother" and "father" is not as simple as biology. I am not comfortable calling the man who fathered me "my father."<br /><br />But I do refer respectfully to other Natural Fathers out there in-general, of course :-)The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-2421551366685616232010-12-04T22:09:31.241-02:002010-12-04T22:09:31.241-02:00Awesome post! I totally hate that women don't...Awesome post! I totally hate that women don't seem to be able to pull it together and still prey upon each other...why do they think men have the power? Sigh...From a VERY Natural Mother!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05815710859859029536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-70006990603994418272010-12-04T20:31:12.661-02:002010-12-04T20:31:12.661-02:00Sure Von. Be my guest.Sure Von. Be my guest.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07580241881953821182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-17075999470743394182010-12-04T20:15:22.600-02:002010-12-04T20:15:22.600-02:00Agree with very word.I too am unable to call adopt...Agree with very word.I too am unable to call adopters anything other than adopters.Mothers to me are the women who give birth, always have been always will be.You can BeeMommy all you like it will never change my mind about what is natural and what is not.<br />Great run down here too from that sound irrefutable perspective!<br />May I link this one it's great?Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33752164.post-7026658327128689862010-12-04T19:24:59.403-02:002010-12-04T19:24:59.403-02:00How true, how appropriate, and I second this emoti...How true, how appropriate, and I second this emotion...I am a mother..without a child, NOT by my own choice. Call them whatever they like....just don't change the facts...jenny81271https://www.blogger.com/profile/05444506477286574343noreply@blogger.com