Saturday, March 12, 2011
FACT: Being unmarried and/or young and/or financially dependent and/or still in the process of getting an education does not make any woman or girl less a real mother.
FACT: If a young lady is old enough to have a baby, she is old enough to be called a Mother. Babies do not have babies. At age 14 and up, our bodies are the bodies of women capable of fertility, passion and all the other things parents don't like to admit exist.
FACT: Antiquated religious beliefs and reactionary social mores have criminalized the act of love and the birth of a child outside the man-made institute of marriage.
FACT: Illegitimacy is a man-made concept for the benefit of the patriarchy and really has nothing to do with an innocent child or the marital status of that child's mother. Every child has a right to be here, whether the name he/she bears is the mother's or the father's.
FACT: Adult Natural Mothers and Adopted people can handle the same rights as everyone else and the freedom of association that will allow us to pursue or not pursue relationships as we choose.
FACT: Natural Mothers and Adult Adoptees do not need self-appointed spokespeople...especially from those who support the adoption industry.
FACT: Most Natural Mothers are NOT fragile flowers needing protection, anonymity or avuncular concern from institutes and organizations.
FACT: While we might disagree among ourselves on certain points, we all agree that closed records are a violation of our human rights.
FACT: It would cost less to help a new mother and her child than it takes to supply adopters with subsidies. A hand up is different from a hand out.
FACT: Coercion, conditioning and social mythology that bring about surrender are real problems that can only be solved by massive doses of truth.
FACT: If you accept your adult child/natural mother into your life, openly, your nose won't fall off and the world won't stop turning.
FACT: Blood ties DO matter.
FACT: NO ONE is entitled to the child of another woman by "virtue" of infertility.
FACT: The major causes of infertility are delayed childbearing, STDs, obesity, smoking and other lifestyle choices.
FACT: There is no such thing as a "Triad" in adoption. Natural Mothers and Adoptees have no power or equality. That commodity belongs to the agencies, brokers, adopters, workers and others who profit or benefit from our loss.
FACT: Those who adopt are not perfect saints nor or they better people than the majority of natural mothers.
FACT: Too many people don't want to accept or even know these simple, true facts.
FACT: It seems everyone who is not directly connected to adoption "knows someone" who adopted or who was adopted or surrendered a child who is just deliriously happy about it all.