The Boogeyman Cometh

Ah, the fears of childhood, that something was lurking in our closet or under our bed, ready to snatch us and eat us alive. I spent many a night as a little girl, scared of the dark and being alone, quivering under the covers, my imagination running wild and down dark corridors.

Of course I grew up and learned that those monsters, those awful boogeymen, were not real......I thought. But in recent days, real boogeymen have appeared who have a taste for natural mothers. If you don't believe me, go read Musing Mother's latest post. She cites legal chapter and verse and it is a horror story for those of us who surrendered children during the EMS/BSE.

California has already gone one better on the medical forms. Now, all surrendering mothers have to provide an intricate, family medical history AND DNA. G-Men and Big Brother and The Company, Oh My!

What get me is the fact that, in order to legitimize their quest for open records without threatening their adopters and to gain the sympathy of sponsors, the adopted adults have used the medical records issue as a tool to pry open the door for legislation. Adopters fear the possibility of reunion so reunion was not on the table as an issue. Instead, it was medical records that were being pursued. It has worked only too well. And it is working to place us, their mothers, in the hotseat, once again. We are being pushed down the road to liability, even though the map says "here be monsters." All they want is their OBC's. But you give this to a sponsor or have an attorney involved and the next thing you know, there is a list of conditions and requirements and loopholes. One of those loopholes makes a nice, mother-sized noose.

This is why I have a problem with mothers who blindly support every open records bill without realizing that these legislations can potentially cause us a world of misery. It's not bad enough that we were screwed out of our babies as young girls. Supporting these contaminated bill is the same as bending over and providing the Vaseline. How much pain and suffering are we required to go through to satisfy the misguided guilt of a few?

I will NOT let this happen without a fight. I will blog about it, ad nauseum, until my fingers drop off. Once again, we are disrespected and made the ultimate perpetrator of a non-crime. I am sick to death of the "you spread your legs" school of thought. No, we weren't the only ones who "spread our legs" by any means, But we are the ones who got caught.

Once again, let me remind anyone involved in the creation and sponsorship of these bills that you are playing fast and loose with our constitutional rights. I can guarantee you that there are some of us that won't let that slip by without a fight. There may be snow on our roofs, but there is still steel in our spines. I don't have my own teeth or my own knees anymore, but my mind works as well, if not better, than it ever did.

Coerced surrender was bad enough. Mandatory medical forms are totally anti-mother!