One of those comments that I consign to the circular file made me laugh before I hit the "reject" button. It was one of those that went, "blah, blah, blah Hateful, blah blah blah dumpster babies, blah blah shame on you." I am quite sure that this adoption-besotted person who took umbrage thinks that she/he was very original and got me told in spades. Laughing out loud here, but I think they only know one song, and that one, they sing off-tune. I will make another small effort at educating the uneducable. Why do I bother?
You want to see hateful? Go to some group sites I won't name here and see what a wannabe adopter posts when a mother wakes up to her love and caring for her own child and decides to keep and raise that child. You would think that, rather than exercising her rights as that baby's TRUE and legal mother, that she had murdered Mother Teresa. The hate and the self-entitlement ooze out in flows like lava from the Hawaiian volcanoes and just about as red-hot.
You want to feel like the object of hate? Have your adult child find you and want to have a relationship with you. It's not just insecurity or fear....it's downright hostility and our children get put in the middle of it all, so it's usually we moms that back off rather than have our children go through such a tug of war.
You want to know about shame? How about being treated, even by members of one's own family, like you are the Whore of Babylon? How about being called a promiscuous slut and being seen like that by the social workers that are supposed to be helping you, even though you only had one partner or, for some of us, were raped?
Don't lay your hateful shit or your shame on me. If you try, you're going to just see them bounce off and lay there. I shrugged both of those things off a long time ago, and if telling the truth is hateful to you, then I feel very, very sorry for you. As for those dumpster babies, you are talking about a very small minority. How would you like it if I constantly referred to the adopters who have molested, abused and even killed the children they adopted? They have been in the news, now, haven't they?
Boy, I do love that "reject" button.