Oh No!! Not Again?! Barfmuggles Day Rears Its Ugly Head

Through the year, I am mostly able to forget about that abomination called "B****mothers's Day." Here, again, are the crumbs thrown to the breeders to try to make them feel special and it grinds my garters to a nub that any mothers of adoption loss would fall for this crap.

I wish I could just sleep all day, today, and not have to come across the inane and sugary and fricking insincere sentiments online. You want to honor the woman that gave birth to you? Do it on HER day..Mother's Day. You won't be taking a thing away from your adopter. After all, she has you and your mother doesn't. And for Goddess' sake, if you are an adopter, DO NOT "thank" this woman for her "precious gift." Gifts are silver picture frames and vases of flowers....NOT babies. Saying "thank you" for a child is like saying we actually wanted to give you our child and that, m'dear, is anything but the truth.

Unfortunately, there are the good, little beemommies among us who buy into this sad satire. They honestly still believe the industry hype and think that they are sooooo special. They also don't see the brainwashing that has been done to this society, starting with the EMS, and really think they have made some kind of well-informed choice. Well, goody for you if you feel that you made the ultimate mother's sacrifice and are a heroine. See how that feels when your child is honoring his/her adopter and his/her chair at your table is empty. Good luck with that heroine thing.

For the majority of us, especially those of us who suffered the overt coercion of the EMS, Barfmuggles Day is a farce, a sham, a shame and an empty sentiment. I'll take my chances and get my kudos tomorrow. I don't want to be "remembered" as a breeder for the more worthy and a vessel for the entitled. I carried both of my taken children in my body, felt them move, held them when they were born, named them and love them, to this day, with a mother's heart, even when they show their butts. That is NOT just a walking uterus. That is a real mother.

I guess the industry and their customers felt they had to do something for us, seeing as how we didn't die or disappear like we were supposed to. Some, I am sure, well-meaning mothers started this observance as a recognition of our motherhood. But the "Triadinists" have taken it and run with it in order to look like they have regard for us. Hell, most of them don't even feel compassion. I have had one woman who adopted tell me that women like me were her worst nightmare. Well, lady, the feeling is mutual. You and the social wreckers and the morality police and the industry are the reasons for many of my abrupt, heart-pounding awakenings.

I have been insulted, ignored and threatened by the adopters of both my adult children. I have had my hand slapped by adoptees, adopters and other pro-adoption mavens for telling my truth without shame. And I'm still here. I didn't do a dramatic "Camille" and expire with grace and secrets intact. I can hear hundreds of adopters and PAPs saying, "Bummer" at that one.

So take your Barfmuggles Day and stick it where it could cause a serious, gastrointestinal blockage. This MOTHER is getting her goodies tomorrow.

(I just HAD to include this with many thanks to Karen D. who quoted "As a great movie line from "The Red Shoes" states: it is much more disheartening to have to steal than to be stolen from, hmmm?")