Someone likened my entry, refusal to read, and opinion of "Ithaka" to another blogger (prolific, it is said) who refused, proudly, to read Ann Fessler's "The Girls Who Went Away." Now K, Honey, no where in TGWWA is there a spewing of acidic hatred and venom against anyone. It is the true stories of mothers who were coerced out of the children during the BSE. If TGWWA had been a book of hateful tirades against adoptees, I doubt if I would have read it. Just to be clear, I have read excerpts from "Ithaka" and they triggered every painful part of my deleted motherhood experience, so make your comparisons accurate. I will not read the book in its entirety because I like myself more than that and will not expose myself to such a painful experience. If you are an adoptee who feels that way about natural mothers, then you don't need to be reading my blog, now do you? If someone doesn't want to acknowledge TGWWA or the BSE, that's tough for her. I hereby allow her to rock on with her bad self.
To the potential adopter who felt that the mother changing her mind was just as big an emotional blow as losing a child to adoption....c'mon woman...grow up! You are mourning the idea of a child. You did not gestate that child and bond with that child while it grew in your body. If you had done that and then had a stillbirth (a genuine tragedy), then I could feel more sympathy for you. But you did NOT lose something that was rightfully yours. The mother kept HER baby and she has that God-given right. Disappointment is not the same as soul-deep grief....not by a long shot. And as for your comments on infertility...yes, that is sad and I am sorry you are infertile. But, if you were missing a leg, would you expect another woman to cut hers off and give it to you? My husband and I both have chronic auto-immune diseases, but we make the best out of our lives that we can. We play the hand we are dealt.
Now, I don't usually answer the nutbars and nimrods, but the person who posted a 10-page, rambling, disjointed, irrational comment that made little to no sense, Sweetie, get some help, NOW. And take your medicines. I am really concerned about you. You are obviously unwell. The last time I read something like that was when a friend who has schizophrenia stopped taking her meds. I got an email from her that had me on the phone to her sister in a shot and yes, she was in bad shape when they got to her.
Now, I think that covered everyone I think might have merited, to some extent, an answer, without making my blog a sniping post for pro-adoptionists and bitter members of the adoption community. I like having the power to decide what I will and won't answer to or allow cause it's my blog. Nyahhh. Or, could I be......SATAN???????