Wednesday, September 01, 2010
As The Brain Is Washed: Part Deux
Hasidic saying (Thanks CB)
I get so tired of hearing the treacle spewed by those young brood mares such as the ones who post to the blog Birthmothers For Adoption. These young women are only a couple of years out from their loss, if that, and have a lot to go through, yet they are putting themselves up as "experts" in the area of surrendering a child for adoption. I'm not quite sure of the significance of this amateurish logo. The pink ribbon is a Breast Cancer Awareness logo, the heart is, well, a heart and the wings??? Well, all I can think of is, maybe, a breast cancer survivor in love, riding a Harley?
You only have to read a few entries to know that the mothers on that group (and no, I will not do them the disservice they do themselves by calling them "birth"mothers) have sipped long and deeply at the Adoption Kool Aid spring of denial and misinformation. They are still in the pink cloud of self-delusion encouraged by the Industry and the adopters that say they are loving mothers...GOOD mothers, even, for turning their infant over to genetic strangers. I have to pity them because they are so damn clueless.
While I abhor the fact that these young women are actually promoting adoption after losing their own children to the Beast, I hate, more, the fact that the Industry is getting so good at making that Kool Aid taste like fine wine. They are honing the brainwashing of the American public to a fine, sharp edge. The blade is so sharp, the Beemommies don't even feel the cut.
I felt a brief moment of hope when I read an entry "Adoption Wasn't For Me," only to find that she just hadn't been introduced to the LDS adoption machine. Well, obviously it is all in the way it is presented. I couldn't read too much more because I was saddened, sickened and felt an uncomfortable twinge of guilt.
The guilt I felt was at keeping silent, as we EMS mothers were ordered to do, for so many years. Our silence aided in the beguiling of these naifs. When the phenomenon of search and reunion started, the Industry was, only then, starting to hear faint rumblings from the mothers of appropriated infants. Their response was the infamous "Focus Groups" where mothers were blindfolded, made to relive their pain and tragedy and then sent on their way with $100 for their participation. Out of that dastardly action came the idea of "open adoption," which was nothing more than a way to entice more women into surrender and not worth the paper on which it is printed. It was crumbs when a feast was in order.
To make a bad situation worse, they now have, in some church supported agencies, especially the LDS, relinquishment and "binding" ceremonies. How on earth could any mother survive these indignities and torture unless she was thoroughly, emotionally anesthetized? I watched a short video of one such ceremony and it was barbaric. It was like forcing the lamb to celebrate its own slaughter.
I watched a horror movie, recently...one so bad it was almost funny. The vampire was turning people into vampires and then sending them out to make more vampires with an eye to world domination (what would they subsist on when all the humans are turned..enquiring minds want to know?). The Industry turns mothers-to-be into beemommies and then sends them forth to entice more beemommies. That's scarier than the scariest horror movie.
The bad part, the hard part, for me, is that I understand their denial. I was in the "Good Birthmother" fog for quite a few years. It took reuniting with two damaged, adult children in great pain to realize that I had been HAD. I'd love to be able to get through to these young handmaids and let them know that, when they realize that pink cloud is just water vapor with food coloring, they are going to fall and fall hard. They are still floating and feeling all heroic and righteous. And if they believe that idiocy about their children "rising up and calling them blessed," they can forget THAT in a big, fat hurry. That very seldom happens and, when it does, it is usually temporary and a prelude to "goodbye forever."
The Industry is pulling out all the stops and these young sisters have been swept up in the wave of anti-choice, guilt-inducing, Madison Avenue glitz, smoke and mirrors. I have to do my small part to counteract the poison they are spreading with what they, mistakenly, probably see as good intentions. If they really, honestly think that giving up their babies is so damn wonderful, then I am doubly sorry for them.
If and when the awakening comes, it is going to be a rude one.